Growing up, I didn't give Mother's Day much thought - it was just another day in a great childhood. I would give my mom a card, and my dad would buy her peonies if he knew what was good for him. But at 28 I lost my mom to ovarian cancer, and certain days on the calendar - including Mother's Day - were forever changed.
On the other hand, 16 years ago I became a mother myself. I love being a mom - it is a blessing and truly the best job I've ever had.
And so Mother's Day is filled with conflicting emotions for me. I miss my mom and always feel a bit "off" on this day, but I'm a mother myself, and I love and cherish spending the day with my daughter.
I realize that I'm not the only person who struggles with clashing emotions on Mother's Day, so I wanted to share my experience with others, that they too take a little control of this day, or any date on the calendar that is difficult for them to face.
My Mother's Day ritual goes something like this:
- Weather permitting, I start my day with a long walk to clear my head and prepare to conquer the day
- My daughter and I endeavor on a long and complicated baking project. I grew up in the kitchen with my mother, and I love spending time baking with my daughter. This activity honors my mom while creating great memories for my daughter and I.
- I rarely cook on Mother's Day, I pick whatever takeout I am craving and enjoy every bite.
This year my heart will be extra heavy, since last Mother's Day we lost my stepmother and mother in law. They will both be in my head and heart this Mother's Day, and I trust that my rituals will help me stay grounded, be mindful of my feelings, and seize another memorable Mother's Day with my daughter.